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Feb. 2, 2022

Dear Christian: Obesity & Gluttony Aren't Synonyms (And Why That Matters to Survivors of Sexual Abuse)

Doctors, Scientists and researchers have long been exploring the link between obesity and childhood sexual abuse. In fact, sexual abuse is now recognized as being a key factor in obesity. The church, as usual, seems to be la…
Jan. 5, 2022

Sexual Abuse Survivors and the Struggle with Self Care

Why do survivors of sexual abuse seem to struggle with self care? And how has the church contributed to that struggle? We chat about it on today's episode. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/survivorsanctuary/m…
Dec. 15, 2021

On Josh Duggar and the Church's Proclivity for Protecting Predators

If you followed the Josh Duggar trial, you know that he was recently found guilty on two counts of possessing child pornography. Maybe you also noticed some similarities between how much of the Duggar family and The Church d…
Nov. 24, 2021

When the Church Treats Sexual Abuse as a Partisan Issue: With Special Guest Joshua Yoder

As promised, in this episode of Survivor Sanctuary we are piggy-backing off of our last episode on vaccine mandates and protecting the bodily autonomy of survivors of sexual abuse. We're chatting with Joshua Yoder, host of t…
Nov. 4, 2021

Sexual Abuse, Body Autonomy, and How Vaccine Mandates Can Bring Up Trauma for Survivors

Every once in a while, I need to record an episode that will step on #allthetoes. Typically, I try to stay away from political/partisan topics, but as vaccine mandates begin to go into effect across the nation, survivors of …
Oct. 13, 2021

Hot Female Teachers and the Double Standard of Sexual Abuse Response in Schools

It seems every other day in South Florida we see a new story of a teacher sexually abusing a student. And in fact, this past week, it was literally every other day, as two female teachers were arrested in Miami-Dade county f…
Sept. 22, 2021

What the Gabby Petito Tragedy can Teach the Church about Believing Victims of Abuse

As we've watched the tragic story of Gabby Petito unfold over the last several weeks, it's been triggering to survivors of all kinds of abuse. For survivors of sexual abuse in the church, specifically, we may not be able to …
Sept. 1, 2021

When a Survivor Refuses to be Silenced: A Chat with Mendy Hood

On today's episode of Survivor Sanctuary, we chat with Mendy Hood, a survivor of sexual abuse by her youth pastor at age 13. Mendy's fighting spirit is contagious as she shares her story and refuses to hold back in her quest…
Aug. 12, 2021

If Frank Houston Were A Serial Bomber Instead of a Serial Child Rapist, We Wouldn't Be Having This Conversation

Maybe you've seen the news that Hillsong founder Brian Houston has been formally charged for allegedly concealing his father's sexual assault of children. He is "devastated" by these charges, but perhaps not as devastated as…
July 28, 2021

To Those Who Think Sexual Abuse Ruins the Reputation of the Church

"Speaking out about sexual abuse doesn't ruin the reputation of the church... Sexual Abusers ruin the reputation of the church..." I'm sure they "meme" well, but when people use this logic to combat those who silence abuse v…
July 14, 2021

When Survivors are Bullied for Keeping the Faith

We know that many survivors of sexual abuse are judged by Christians for walking out of the church. But what about the survivors who choose to stay? It turns out many of them are also being judged, just by a new set of peopl…
June 30, 2021

Church: A Highly Dangerous Rehab Facility for Child Molesters

Of all the places that could offer a second chance to people who sexually abuse children, The Church is arguably one of the most dangerous. This is not solely because abusers are often put back into leadership roles there, o…
June 18, 2021

Jesus Gave Up His Life... Why Can't "Repentant" Abusers Give Up the Pulpit?

According to most preachers, Jesus is the example we should all be following. So why do so many of them fail to emulate Christ and his willingness to lay down his life for his sheep? If Jesus willingly gave up his rights as …
June 9, 2021

Russell Moore, Leaked Emails and the Southern Baptist Convention's Contempt for Sexual Abuse Survivors

The title of this episode is pretty self-explanatory. We're chatting about former SBCer Russell Moore and his letters which were leaked this week, revealing things about the SBC Executive Committee that really don't surprise…
May 26, 2021

In Case You Were Wondering, I Don't Speak Out About Sexual Abuse for Fun

Sometimes, speaking out about sexual abuse can cost you family relationships. That's often because the perpetrator is a member of the family. But what about family members who resent your voice for other reasons? In this epi…
May 12, 2021

For the Fruit of the Spirit is... Niceness (Why the Church Fails to Recognize Wolves)

In this episode of the podcast, we're going to finish our conversation about Wolves, and why the Church has so much trouble recognizing them in its midst. To start, it's very difficult to recognize a wolf when you don't even…
May 5, 2021

Christians Don't Actually Believe What the Bible Says About Wolves (And Other Reasons Sexual Abuse is Rampant in the Church)

It's there in black and white, and sometimes in red. The warnings about wolves are weaved throughout the tapestry of the New Testament, admonishing us to be on the lookout for the ravenous predators disguised as sheep in our…
April 7, 2021

When a Predator Shapes How You Pastor: A Chat with Bryan Holt (Part 2)

It can often feel to survivors that pastors who truly care about sexual abuse are mere legends. Sure, we've heard they're out there, but has anyone ever actually seen one up close? As it turns out, yes. And while we aren't a…
March 31, 2021

When a Predator Shapes How You Pastor: A Chat with Bryan Holt (Part I)

It can often feel to survivors that pastors who truly care about sexual abuse are mere legends. Sure, we've heard they're out there, but has anyone ever actually seen one up close? As it turns out, yes. And while we aren't a…
March 24, 2021

[In]Competent to Counsel: How "Biblical" Counseling Can Harm Sexual Abuse Survivors

Evangelical Christianity has its own music, movies, books and catch phrases, so it stands to reason that we need our own therapists as well. Right? Well, maybe not. While Christian movies may only make you cringe and despera…
March 17, 2021

Is Your Cardiologist A Christian? (How the Church Discourages Survivor Healing)

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse know all too well that churches often miss the mark (by a lot) when it comes to supporting survivors. But what pours salt into their deep wounds is that these same churches often demonize …
March 10, 2021

Life Without Parole: When Predators Offend and Victims Serve Their Sentence

While experts and offenders debate whether child predators should be rehabilitated or imprisoned, victims of sexual abuse receive an automatic life sentence. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/survivorsanctuary…
Feb. 24, 2021

Is My Podcast Sending People To Hell? And Other Questions About Speaking Out On Sexual Abuse

You're ruining the reputation of the Church. You're hurting the cause of Christ. You're turning people away from Christianity and sending them to hell. If you're a survivor of sexual abuse, you've likely had all of these acc…
Feb. 10, 2021

How Protectors Help Us Heal from Sexual Abuse

I lost my brother last month, and as a result, my fiercest protector. In his honor, this episode of Survivor Sanctuary is dedicated to "protectors" like him, and their role in helping us heal from sexual abuse. Support Survi…